Haters Make Me Famous
You can never please everybody. We will be living in an ideal world if we do.
I was literally in a state of shock when I checked out the comments in our Christmas Party survey and found a few of them (all of them females take note) bashing me as the female vocalist for the Wooden Turbines Band. The comments almost blew every shred of dignity in my body and it left me wondering if there's any truth to them at all.
I know I'm not perfect and I'm not claiming to be the best singer ever but during that night at our Christmas Party, our band performed for the sole purpose only of entertaining the crowd. We did it because we only have one thing in mind--to have fun and to rock!
My band mates and my colleagues assured me that they indeed enjoyed our performance. My fellow vocalist told me that I have a great voice but the problem he noticed lies mostly on how I control it when I get nervous onstage and it's quite common among amateur singers. Every singer goes through it and has to work out ways to become accustomed to stage fright. I admit it wasn't my best performance ever. I only did a very simple rendition of Bic Runga's 'Sway' but still I had to gulp a few glasses of wine just to calm my nerves. I might be tipsy at that time but that didn't affect my general presence onstage. It's not like I performed a Lady Gaga repertoire! In fact, our band's performance was better compared to the initial band who performed and most people say so. Hence, I was just pissed off on where such negative comments originated and it seems there's no justifiable basis. I wonder what could have ticked off their ire against me. I could only think, if they have so much to say then what kept them from performing onstage themselves? Prove that they're the better singer but of course they're not capable of doing it.
I consulted with my colleagues and they claimed it was a direct attack against me. It was what would a typical insecure female would do to bring down any fellow female she dislikes solely because of her looks and popularity. It wasn't a constructive criticism because otherwise, the other female vocalist from the initial band that performed should have been mentioned as well. But she wasn't because she's not pretty so they didn't pay attention to her. I never really considered myself the type of person who enjoys basking in the limelight so I seldom do performances. Just imagine how it was like for celebrities, they must have gotten numb from all the attention and negative criticisms! After all, celebrities have their bad days as well.
It was hard at first, trying my best not to let it affect me too much. But you know what? Does everybody's opinions really matter? Should I care? If I'll only keep getting affected by what every person thinks then I might as well just be a wallflower and NEVER do anything in front of people. Because no matter what I do or anyone does, some people will always keep digging up dirt so they can just pin you down. These kind of people are bitter, miserable and fault-finding individuals who have nothing better to do in life but gossip about other people.
I've done what I want and that was to perform in our Christmas party. I'm happy and that's what all that matters. Anyway, life is too short to be missing out on opportunities. Let them hate me and I'll just cheer them on!
I was literally in a state of shock when I checked out the comments in our Christmas Party survey and found a few of them (all of them females take note) bashing me as the female vocalist for the Wooden Turbines Band. The comments almost blew every shred of dignity in my body and it left me wondering if there's any truth to them at all.
I know I'm not perfect and I'm not claiming to be the best singer ever but during that night at our Christmas Party, our band performed for the sole purpose only of entertaining the crowd. We did it because we only have one thing in mind--to have fun and to rock!
My band mates and my colleagues assured me that they indeed enjoyed our performance. My fellow vocalist told me that I have a great voice but the problem he noticed lies mostly on how I control it when I get nervous onstage and it's quite common among amateur singers. Every singer goes through it and has to work out ways to become accustomed to stage fright. I admit it wasn't my best performance ever. I only did a very simple rendition of Bic Runga's 'Sway' but still I had to gulp a few glasses of wine just to calm my nerves. I might be tipsy at that time but that didn't affect my general presence onstage. It's not like I performed a Lady Gaga repertoire! In fact, our band's performance was better compared to the initial band who performed and most people say so. Hence, I was just pissed off on where such negative comments originated and it seems there's no justifiable basis. I wonder what could have ticked off their ire against me. I could only think, if they have so much to say then what kept them from performing onstage themselves? Prove that they're the better singer but of course they're not capable of doing it.
I consulted with my colleagues and they claimed it was a direct attack against me. It was what would a typical insecure female would do to bring down any fellow female she dislikes solely because of her looks and popularity. It wasn't a constructive criticism because otherwise, the other female vocalist from the initial band that performed should have been mentioned as well. But she wasn't because she's not pretty so they didn't pay attention to her. I never really considered myself the type of person who enjoys basking in the limelight so I seldom do performances. Just imagine how it was like for celebrities, they must have gotten numb from all the attention and negative criticisms! After all, celebrities have their bad days as well.
It was hard at first, trying my best not to let it affect me too much. But you know what? Does everybody's opinions really matter? Should I care? If I'll only keep getting affected by what every person thinks then I might as well just be a wallflower and NEVER do anything in front of people. Because no matter what I do or anyone does, some people will always keep digging up dirt so they can just pin you down. These kind of people are bitter, miserable and fault-finding individuals who have nothing better to do in life but gossip about other people.
I've done what I want and that was to perform in our Christmas party. I'm happy and that's what all that matters. Anyway, life is too short to be missing out on opportunities. Let them hate me and I'll just cheer them on!
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